Relationship Health Test
Every couple sooner or later asks the same quiet question: are we actually doing well, or have we just gotten used to each other? This test gives you a structured answer. Thirty statements, ten key areas of a partnership, and an instant score from 0 to 100 — with a breakdown that shows exactly where your relationship is strong and where it is quietly losing points.
The areas are drawn from what relationship research keeps finding over and over: communication, trust, how you fight, emotional and physical closeness, shared values, personal space, support, the fairness of everyday load, and whether you both still choose this future. Answer honestly — the test only works as well as your honesty does.
Private by design. There is no sign-up and nothing is sent to any server: your answers are scored right in your browser and disappear when you close the page.
How the score works
Each of the ten areas is measured by three statements, including reversed ones — where agreeing actually signals a problem. Your answers are converted to a 0–100 scale per area, and the overall score is the average across all ten. Above 70 is a green zone, 40–69 means the area deserves attention, and below 40 is a red flag worth acting on.
The question set is inspired by the instruments relationship researchers actually use — the Couples Satisfaction Index, the Relationship Assessment Scale and the Gottman Sound Relationship House model — adapted into plain language you can answer in five minutes.
Compare answers with your partner
A relationship has two sides, and the most interesting result is not your score — it is the gap between yours and your partner's. After finishing, tap “Copy link for my partner” and send it over. When they complete the test, they will see both results side by side: the overall scores, both profiles on one chart, and the areas where you two see the relationship most differently. Those gaps are usually the best conversation starters a couple can get.
The result is drawn as a chart across ten areas, so the picture reads in a second: where the relationship looks healthy and where the line drops. Answer about how things are now rather than how they were a year ago — recalling the best period turns this into a test about a past relationship, and that shows nothing useful.
What this test is not
This is a self-reflection tool, not a diagnosis and not therapy. A low score does not mean your relationship is doomed, and a high one is not a license to stop trying. If the test keeps pointing at the same painful areas — especially trust, contempt in conflict or feeling lonely together — a couples therapist is the right next step, and going is a sign of strength, not failure.
Short answers
What does the relationship health test measure?
An overall score from 0 to 100 plus a breakdown across ten areas: communication, trust, intimacy, conflict, support, boundaries, daily life, plans, freedom and appreciation. The score alone means little — what matters is which areas come out lowest.
Can we take it together and compare answers?
Yes, that is what it is built for. Take the test yourself, hit “Send the test to your partner” — a link with your answers is copied. Your partner answers the same questions and sees both results on one chart.
What counts as a good score?
Above 75 means the relationship is broadly stable, 55–75 is a working norm with dips in specific areas, below 55 means enough has piled up that the conversation should not wait. The gap between your score and your partner's matters more than the absolute numbers.
What should we do if the scores are low?
Take the single lowest area and discuss concrete situations from it rather than the relationship as a whole. A conversation about “everything is bad” almost always goes nowhere; a conversation about “this is the third money fight this month” does not.
What does it mean if we get different results?
The gap is the result. It means the two of you see the same relationship differently, and the conversation should start with the area where the score gap is widest.
Does the test work for long-distance relationships?
Yes, though some daily-life questions will feel like a stretch. Answer for how things actually are now, not for how they would be if you lived together.
Is the test free, and do I need to sign up?
The test is free and there is no sign-up. Your answers are never sent anywhere — the result is calculated right in your browser.
How long does the test take?
About five minutes: 30 questions with five answer options each.
More on the topic
If what worries you is not the relationship as a whole but specific repeating situations — control, jealousy, pressure — there is a separate abusive relationship test: 24 statements across eight warning signs with a breakdown for each.
To understand your own reactions in closeness — why pauses feel alarming, or why you want to step back — take the attachment style test. And if the person is new in your life, the red flags test collects the early signals. For what the two of you want in bed rather than in the relationship, there is a separate BDSM test (18+).
If you are earlier in the story and want to look at a pair from the outside, try the free compatibility calculator: two birth dates or two signs, an overall percentage and a breakdown across love, chemistry, work, communication and the long run.