Attachment style test for relationships
An attachment style is a habitual way of being close: how you react when a partner goes quiet, how easily you ask for support, what you do when things get very close. It forms early and then repeats from one relationship to the next.
This test does not hand you a one-word label. It shows a profile on a chart across eight traits that make up the anxious and avoidant sides of attachment, and explains how to read your own result.
This stays between you and your device. No sign-up, nothing uploaded — the result is calculated locally.
The four attachment styles
Secure attachment style
Closeness is not frightening and independence does not read as distance. This person talks about their feelings easily and hears other people's just as easily.
Anxious attachment style
Closeness is wanted in large amounts, and the smallest uncertainty triggers a fear of being left. Hence the need for reassurance and the weight of every pause. In this test the anxious side shows up across three traits: calm while waiting, need for reassurance, and recovery after a fight.
Avoidant attachment style
Closeness feels like a threat to autonomy. The closer a partner gets, the stronger the urge to step back, and asking for support feels out of place. The avoidant side is built from comfort with closeness, self-disclosure and asking for support.
Fearful-avoidant (disorganised) attachment style
Both sides at once. The person is pulled towards closeness and away from it simultaneously, so the relationship moves in jerks.
How to read your result
The overall score is attachment security. The higher it is, the fewer anxious and avoidant traits show up in your answers.
Then look at the profile. Low scores on "Waiting", "Reassurance" and "After conflict" point to the anxious side. Low scores on "Closeness", "Openness" and "Support" point to the avoidant one. Both low means attachment closer to the disorganised pattern.
Attachment style can change
A style is a habit, not a diagnosis and not a life sentence. It shifts noticeably towards secure in a relationship with a predictable partner and in work with a therapist.
Knowing your profile helps mostly because it makes reactions explainable. "I am anxious because he has not replied for three hours" stops being a character trait and becomes a mechanism you can talk about.
This test is not a clinical instrument and does not replace a consultation with a professional. It draws on the attachment theory of Bowlby and Ainsworth, put into plain language.
Short answers
What is an attachment style?
It is a stable way of behaving in close relationships: how you react to a partner going quiet, how easily you ask for support, and how quickly you recover after a fight. It forms in early experience but shows up in adult relationships.
What are the four attachment styles?
Secure, anxious, avoidant and fearful-avoidant. The test shows not just the label but how strongly each of the eight underlying traits scores, which is why almost nobody comes out as a pure type.
What is an anxious attachment style?
Heightened sensitivity to distance. A long silence from a partner reads as a threat, reassurance is needed regularly, and a fight knocks you off balance for a long time. It is not weakness — it is a low threshold for anxiety in closeness.
What is an avoidant attachment style?
Discomfort with too much closeness. Asking for support is hard, conflict triggers the urge to withdraw, and self-disclosure comes slowly. From the outside it often reads as coldness, though the same protective mechanism is at work.
Can we take the attachment style test together?
Yes. Take the test yourself, then hit “Send the test to your partner” at the end — a link with your answers is copied. Once your partner answers the same 24 statements, they see both profiles on one chart. The answers travel inside the link and are never stored on a server.
Can an attachment style change?
Yes. Attachment is not a diagnosis or a life sentence: it shifts with new experience, stable relationships and therapy. The traits tied to recovering after conflict tend to move first.
Is the test free, and do I need to sign up?
The test is free and there is no sign-up. Your answers are never sent anywhere — the result is calculated right in your browser.
How long does the test take?
About four minutes: 24 statements with five answer options each. Answer with your first reaction — it gives a more accurate result than hunting for the “correct” option.
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