An attachment style is a habitual way of being close: how you react when a partner goes quiet, how easily you ask for support, what you do when things get very close. It forms early and then repeats from one relationship to the next.
This test does not hand you a one-word label. It shows a profile across eight traits that make up the anxious and avoidant sides of attachment, and explains how to read your own result.
This stays between you and your device. No sign-up, nothing uploaded — the result is calculated locally.
Your partner has already taken this test and sent you their results. Answer the same 24 statements — at the end you will see your scores side by side, including where you two see the relationship differently.
24 statements · about 4 minutes
Answer about how you usually feel in close relationships, not about one particular argument.
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The four attachment styles
Secure: closeness is not frightening and independence does not read as distance. This person talks about their feelings easily and hears other people's just as easily.
Anxious: closeness is wanted in large amounts, and the smallest uncertainty triggers a fear of being left. Hence the need for reassurance and the weight of every pause.
Avoidant: closeness feels like a threat to autonomy. The closer a partner gets, the stronger the urge to step back, and asking for support feels out of place.
Disorganised: both sides at once. The person is pulled towards closeness and away from it simultaneously, so the relationship moves in jerks.
How to read your result
The overall score is attachment security. The higher it is, the fewer anxious and avoidant traits show up in your answers.
Then look at the profile. Low scores on "Waiting", "Reassurance" and "After conflict" point to the anxious side. Low scores on "Closeness", "Openness" and "Support" point to the avoidant one. Both low means attachment closer to the disorganised pattern.
Attachment style can change
A style is a habit, not a diagnosis and not a life sentence. It shifts noticeably towards secure in a relationship with a predictable partner and in work with a therapist.
Knowing your profile helps mostly because it makes reactions explainable. "I am anxious because he has not replied for three hours" stops being a character trait and becomes a mechanism you can talk about.
This test is not a clinical instrument and does not replace a consultation with a professional. It draws on the attachment theory of Bowlby and Ainsworth, put into plain language.