This abusive relationship test helps you see what, from the inside, often looks like "that is just how they are". Answer 24 statements and get a breakdown across eight signs psychologists treat as markers of abuse.
The test does not diagnose anything and does not decide what to do with your relationship. It shows which themes keep repeating: control, isolation, belittling, jealousy and monitoring, money, pressure and threats, boundaries in intimacy, and blame for conflict.
This stays between you and your device. No sign-up, nothing uploaded — the result is calculated locally.
Your partner has already taken this test and sent you their results. Answer the same 24 statements — at the end you will see your scores side by side, including where you two see the relationship differently.
24 statements · 10 areas · about 5 minutes
Rate each statement on how true it is for your relationship right now — not on your best week, not on your worst. There are no trick questions and no wrong answers.
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How the score works
Each of the eight signs carries three statements. They add up to a score per sign and an overall result: 70–100 means no clear markers, 40–69 means warning signals are present, below 40 means the signs form a steady pattern.
Two statements in each sign are worded directly and one is reversed. That keeps the result from depending on a habit of agreeing with everything.
Why abuse is hard to see from the inside
Abuse rarely starts with shouting. It usually looks like care: your partner wants to know where you are, worries about your friends, takes over the money. Boundaries move a little at a time, and each single step feels too small to argue about.
That is why this test asks about concrete repeating situations rather than labels. One match means almost nothing. What matters is how many signs stack up together and how long it has been going on.
What to do with the result
The result is a prompt for a conversation, not a verdict. If the score is low in one or two signs, start there: name the specific situation rather than the person's character.
If many signs score low, talk to someone you trust or to a professional. Abuse is hard to untangle alone, because the other party has an interest in your version being "I must be imagining it".
This test is not a diagnostic tool and does not replace a consultation with a psychologist. If you are in physical danger, reach out to people and services you trust.